In answer to Drew, Jill Joey and Charlie Robert's question: Even with dementia, a person will maintain life-long skills, in your case, casual conversation e.g. "Hi. I'm doing fine. I miss you." things like that. Making a pot of coffee, dressing, taking a shower, things she has done all her life, she can still do. I wouldn't be surprised if she could still beat me at canasta. Also there is a goodly part of Helen that is still quite intact enough to "get it together" for phone calls, company, etc.

So, yes, she has dementia and yes, she can still make good, casual conversation (see my entry below). It is only when she is "out of her element" (e.g. Dr.'s office) that a practiced eye would notice something amiss. So, don't despair. Granny is still very much the granny you have always known and loved. The main issues are medicine non-compliance and an unsteady gait. Do call frequently, especially in the evening when she is often by herself. Keeping her "connected" to others is a big help, either by phone or visit. Don't forget to pray. R.