Helen said anyone can come, but she doesn't see why. Helen is fine, It's just time for her regular check-up. Nothing to get worked up about. Really. It's not in response to some crisis. Cindy booked the appointment a month ago. Helen is doing quite well.
However, for those of you who choose to come, here are a few strong suggestions:
Never, ever talk about Helen in the third person (she did that, she's not been doing this) when she is in the room. Not only is it bad manners, it makes Helen "feel like an object" as she put it. And only one person speaking at a time.
If you can't come, don't, as everyone tends to talk to Helen at the same time about different things and it confuses her. I will post an objective summary that evening of the visit. There won't be 5 different versions of what happened, Suzanne, but don't let that stop you from coming. Amy has to work that day.
No "Mom, you must, or need, or you should". It is demeaning and, if I know Helen, a waste of breath as well.
Try and keep the visit short, calm, and peaceful and to the point.
Dr. Crane went way out of her way last time because we took up time she had scheduled for other patients. I don't think we should expect her to do that again.
Whoever is with Helen, that person should explain what is going on as she goes through her exam. The office is waaaay out of her comfort zone, and she'll need things explained, if only to keep her oriented. Don't talk to her as if she was a child, because she isn't
Finally, don't crowd her. respect her "space" the same way you want others to respect yours. R,
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